Talk to Merv: Confidence Coaching in London
Transform Your Confidence From The Inside Out
For 7+ years and over 750 clients, I've guided people through their confidence journeys. Now, it's time to share what I've learned in a way that goes beyond the camera.
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"I never thought I could feel this way about myself."
Does this sound familiar?
You avoid mirrors, cameras, or certain clothing because you're not comfortable with how you look
You're constantly comparing yourself to others and coming up short
Your inner critic is LOUD – and seems to have a highlight reel of your insecurities on repeat
You've tried positive affirmations, self-help books, and Instagram quotes, but nothing sticks
You find yourself saying "I'll feel better when..." (I lose weight, get a promotion, find a partner)
Here's the truth:
There is no perfect version of you waiting on the other side of your insecurities.
That's because you're already whole – you just haven't discovered how to see it yet.
We're Different to Traditional Confidence Coaching
Most confidence coaches focus only on mindset techniques and positive thinking. That works for some people and not others. Plus it's hard to maintain once your sessions have finished.
What happens when you leave the coaching session and face the mirror again? When you see a photo of yourself that triggers old insecurities?
Real confidence transformation requires more than just mental exercises. It needs to be embodied – something you experience physically.
That's where our approach is different. After guiding hundreds of nervous clients through transformative photography experiences, I've developed a method that combines proven techniques with emotional connection.
The C.L.I.C.K. Method
Unlike anything else in London, our confidence coaching is built on a structured approach to building camera confidence, guiding clients through a transformation that goes beyond just "looking good" in photos. It's about shifting self-perception, embracing the experience, and walking away with a lasting sense of confidence.
HOW IT WORKS:
Challenge Your Self-Perception
Most people's hesitation with being photographed isn't about the camera, it's about the stories they tell themselves. We start by identifying limiting beliefs about appearance, recognizing where these beliefs come from, and shifting focus from 'flaws' to seeing oneself in a more neutral, kinder way.
Learn New Ways to See Yourself
Confidence comes from perspective. We help you understand how body language, angles, and expression influence perception. Through guided exercises and visual demonstrations, you'll experiment with posture and movement to feel more in control and see yourself differently.
Immerse in the Experience
This is where resistance turns into trust. Instead of focusing on the end result, you'll fully engage in the process. Through music, movement, and playful prompts, you'll embrace the initial discomfort and learn to trust the process, the environment, and yourself.
Capture Your True Self
Once the resistance fades, real moments happen. This stage focuses on capturing genuine expressions rather than stiff, unnatural poses. Through gentle guidance and creating a space for authenticity, we'll help you recognize that confidence is built through doing, not overthinking.
Keep the Confidence
The experience doesn't end when the session is over. We'll guide you through a post-session reflection, reinforcing your progress by comparing initial nerves to final results. You'll receive tools and practices to continue your confidence journey long after our work together is complete.
The C.L.I.C.K. Method isn't just about getting a few good photos. It's about changing how you see yourself. This isn't a temporary confidence boost; it's an ongoing shift that stays with you long after our work together is complete.
Confidence Coaching Services
Choose the journey that resonates with your needs:
THE CONFIDENCE BLUEPRINT
£395
- 3 one-hour coaching sessions
- Personalized confidence-building exercises
- Action plan for sustainable self-image improvement
- Option for in-person or online sessions
- Email support between sessions
VISUAL TRANSFORMATION JOURNEY
£695
- 2 confidence coaching sessions
- Mini photo session (30-45 minutes)
- Photo reveal with guided reflection
- 3 digital images included
- Focus on using visual documentation to challenge self-perception
COMPLETE CONFIDENCE TRANSFORMATION
£995
- 4 coaching sessions over 2-3 months
- Full photography session (90 minutes)
- Photo reveal with deep guided reflection
- 5 digital images included
- Follow-up accountability session
- Personal confidence journal
GROUP CONFIDENCE WORKSHOP
£175 per person
- 2-hour group workshop for 5-8 people
- Interactive exercises
- Perfect for friends, family, or colleagues
- Option to add mini group photo session
Payment plans available: 3 or 6 months, interest-free with no credit checks
Book Your CallAbout Merv: Your Confidence Coach
I'm Mervyn Reid-Nelson, and my journey to becoming London's premier confidence coach began with a simple observation: people are incredibly hard on themselves.
After working with over 750 clients through my photography business, You at Yours, I noticed a pattern. Nearly everyone who walked through my door – regardless of their appearance, accomplishments, or background – struggled with how they saw themselves.
What began as boudoir photography sessions evolved into profound transformational experiences. Clients weren't just leaving with photos; they were leaving with a new relationship with themselves.
I've been voted London's Best Boudoir Photographer three times, but my real passion lies in the coaching element of my work – guiding people to see themselves as worthy, beautiful, and enough exactly as they are.
My approach combines practical psychology, embodiment techniques, and the power of visual documentation to create lasting confidence transformation. And now, I'm offering this expertise beyond the photography studio.
The Process: What to Expect
FREE CHEMISTRY CALL
We start with a no-pressure conversation to understand your specific challenges and determine if we're the right fit. I only work with clients who are truly ready to make a change.
CUSTOMIZED PROGRAM SELECTION
Based on your needs, we'll select the appropriate coaching program and schedule your sessions.
DEEP DIVE SESSION
Our first session goes beneath the surface to understand the root causes of your confidence challenges.
TRANSFORMATIONAL TECHNIQUES
Learn practical tools you can apply immediately to begin shifting your self-perception.
IMPLEMENTATION & SUPPORT
Regular sessions to refine your practice, overcome obstacles, and celebrate your progress.
DOCUMENTATION OF CHANGE
Whether through photography or written/verbal reflection, we'll create tangible evidence of your transformation.
Why This Approach Works
The reason most confidence-building efforts fail is they try to solve a physical/emotional problem with only mental solutions.
Our bodies hold our stories.
When we feel insecure, our shoulders hunch, our chest caves, our eyes lower. These physical patterns become habitual, reinforcing our mental beliefs.
My approach addresses confidence on multiple levels simultaneously:
Cognitive
Challenging limiting beliefs and negative self-talk
Physical
Changing how you carry and present yourself
Emotional
Processing feelings that drive self-doubt
Visual
Creating new reference points for how you see yourself
This multi-dimensional approach creates lasting change, not just temporary confidence boosts.
Client Transformations
"When we sat down to look at the images, I instantly started crying! I couldn't believe it was me. But the true transformation wasn't just in the photos – it was the confidence I found during the process. Merv helped me see myself in a way I'd been hiding from for years. This wasn't just about taking beautiful photos; it was about discovering the person I'd been all along."
— Sarah L.
"I've never felt confident in my body, and so booked this shoot in the hopes of changing how I view myself. It did that and so much more! What I didn't expect was how Merv's coaching would change not just how I saw myself in photos, but how I carried myself in everyday life. Six months later, I'm still using the techniques he taught me, and people around me have noticed the difference in how I present myself."
— Kimberly J.
"Could have never thought I was going to see myself pictured like Merv did! 'It's me!' Those were my constant words... What Merv gave me was beyond photography – it was a completely new way of relating to myself. The coaching elements helped me understand why I'd been so critical of myself for years, and how to break free from those patterns. This experience transformed my relationship with myself."
— Michelle R.
"Mervyn focuses on who you are as a person and everything he does, he does for you to unlock another side to yourself. When I left the session, I was on a high, it brought out a side of me that I don't usually get to express. His coaching approach helps you discover parts of yourself you didn't know existed – or had forgotten were there. That's something that stays with you long after the photos are delivered."
— Eliza T.
Body Confidence FAQ
IS THIS ONLY FOR WOMEN?
Absolutely not. While many of my photography clients are women, my confidence coaching serves people of all genders. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their own skin.
DO I NEED TO DO THE PHOTOGRAPHY COMPONENT?
Not at all. While I believe in the transformative power of seeing yourself through a new lens, the standalone coaching program is powerful on its own.
I'M NOT IN LONDON. CAN I STILL WORK WITH YOU?
Yes! The Confidence Blueprint program can be conducted entirely online via video calls.
I'M NERVOUS ABOUT BEING VULNERABLE WITH SOMEONE I DON'T KNOW. IS THAT NORMAL?
Completely normal. That's why we start with a chemistry call – to ensure you feel comfortable with me before proceeding. My clients consistently mention how quickly they feel at ease in our sessions.
HOW LONG UNTIL I SEE RESULTS?
Most clients report significant shifts in perspective after just one or two sessions. However, rewiring your self-image is an ongoing process. Our programs are designed to create both immediate wins and lasting change.
Ready to Transform Your Confidence?
The first step is simple: Book a free 30-minute chemistry call. This is an opportunity for us to connect, understand your specific challenges, and determine if we're the right fit.
Remember: I only take on clients who are truly ready to make a change.
That's why we have a 100% success rate with the clients we choose to work with. If you're ready to see yourself in a new light, I'm ready to guide you there.
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FROM SELF-DOUBT TO SELF-CELEBRATION
"For almost a decade, I've been privileged to guide hundreds of individuals on a transformative journey of self-discovery. These sessions go beyond capturing an image; they're an invitation to step into a higher version of yourself that already exists. Trust me, everyone has it, even those who are convinced they don't."
— Mervyn Reid-Nelson, Founder of You at Yours
Argh! I know what you're thinking.
Maybe it's the cost.
Or you're convinced this won't work for you.
Maybe you're waiting to feel better in your body first.
Here's what I've learned after working with hundreds of clients: there won't be a perfect time. The journey to confidence begins when you decide to take that first step – even if (especially if) you're terrified.
Whatever your reason, if you're already convinced I'm the coach you want to work with, let's talk.
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